As I’ve previously told you guys, my 29th birthday was Easter Sunday, April 20th. And as many of you also know, this was my very first birthday without my Mother, which has been incredibly difficult. I did a lot of praying, looked at some of my childhood pictures and had a nice little cry. I wrote her an open letter which helped as well (I’ll share it at the bottom of the post). Birthdays are celebratory. And each one is a blessing so I knew I couldn’t let it be filled with sadness. So I partied until my socks fell off! Lol. I did a pre-party with a few of my friends on Wednesday, April 16th at Select Lounge’s Humpday Happy Hour in Downtown Baltimore which was an absolute BLAST and only a brief indication of the trouble I was going to get into over the weekend. LOL. As always, Alex and Danny took excellent care of us.
On Friday, I did some good ol’ fashion pampering. I went to the nail, hair (Dream Hair Lounge w/ my one of my besties/dreamweaver Maurice Fains) and tanning salons, and of course I had my monthly waxing and threading done. I even did a makeup refresher course with my friend and makeup artist Farzana. I don’t typically like having my makeup done by other people, but if I do, it’d only be by her or my BFF and Line Sister Danielle. But what I typically do is just take classes with them and ask all the questions I need to know and I PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!
Saturday (April 19th) was THE DAY! I had a birthday dinner in one of Ruth’s Chris’ (on Water St.) private rooms with about 20 of my friends. We had a prefixed, personalized menu and ate great food, drank cutesy cocktails and followed them with yummy desserts. After taking 1,000 pictures (Lol) we went directly upstairs to the Havana Club where I had a table waiting for us. Of course I have to thank Dave, Diwee and one of my incredible Sorors, Nykidra. They do this annual event at Havana called Masterclass and I thought it’d be the perfect fit for my birthday. We like to party with class, but the “turn up” is ALWAYS real for us…no matter where we go. It was such a perfect transition from dinner because we literally got right on the elevator and into the party. When I tell you…WE TURNED IT OUT! Cake pops, Ciroc, Moet (Thanks Jameel #BlameJameel), and lots of dancing! After we left Havana we went over to Mint Lounge and smoked hookah until 4am. I went home and slept for a few hours only to do it all over again the very next day.
Easter Sunday was my actual birthday and I had EVERY intention of going to church. I even set my alarm and had my dress hanging up in the front of my closet and ready to go. Clearly my body was NOT HERE FOR IT, so unfortunately that didn’t happen, but I did get the sermon on CD just to catch up and I will be in the Lord’s house this coming Sunday. No excuses…So after I finally did get up, I got dressed and we headed over to the Red Maple SUNDay Party and had a repeat of Saturday. PARTY! PARTY! PARTY! Ciroc, hookah, dancing and more Ciroc. Thank you DeJuan for dealing with my crazy demands and indecisiveness. Lol. You’re the best! So after going to three parties, you would think I’d be done right? WRONG!
On Monday morning, I woke up at the Royal Sonesta hotel where I snuck in my little Yorkie, King because I know he was SICK and TIRED of me being out all week. We went to lunch, I laid down for about 45 minutes and got up to do it one last time! I let Zik and Inkwell convince me to come to their Industry Monday party (also at Red Maple). I was a little hesitant because 29 IS NOT 21. I could feel the partying in my bones. I was TIRED! But, when my text messages started blowing up and the girls were saying “Come on! It’s the last party!” “Lo, it’s your bday finale! Let’s do it!” “I’m coming in town. Turn Up!” I said…alright. I threw on some little denim shorts a see through sweater, some Louboutin booties and said “LET’S DO IT!” We stood on couches, ordered bottles, smoked hookah, took pictures and danced until we couldn’t anymore.
Every girl wants to feel like a princess everyday of the year, but so often life and our responsibilities take precedent. So, on that one day (or for the whole week, like me, LOL) you should take the time to do WHATEVER it is you like. People say we party too much, spend “too much” money on clothes and shoes, but frankly, that’s our right. No one wants to explain their choices. As long as your responsibilities are taken care of and you aren’t hurting anyone, I say you keep doing it! We get one life and I’ve been blessed enough to live mine exactly the way I want and God has given me an excellent family and incredible friends to share it with. My friends went above and beyond in making this weekend absolutely perfect. I don’t know what I’d do without them. So I thank you all Christopher, Danielle, Shvone, Breezy, Octavia, Kristal, Ashley, Reese, Billy, Layton, Ivory, Donald, Shelby, Kelley, Ricky, April, Lindsay, Ashlee, Sheena, Keisha, Kendria, Erica, Farzana, Harriet, Jerry, Chamere, Shawn, Debbie, Bianca, Darrell and Cherise. For all of you who attended the events, sent texts, social networking messages and left voicemails, I am so appreciative. Honestly, the weekend could not have gone any better. The last year of my 20′s has started with a bang!
Here’s the open letter I wrote to my Mom:
Twenty-nine years ago, at this very moment, you were in labor, preparing to give birth to me. As I gather myself to celebrate tonight into tomorrow, I’d be remiss in not having a moment of gratitude to you for not only delivering me, but for the amazing job you did raising me. You poured so much of yourself into making sure I had the best of everything, and the most important of them all, being self love and respect. I’m immensely grateful to you for this life and the preparation you gave me to live it. Tomorrow being my first birthday without you, there are incredible lows and noticeably missing laughter throughout my day, but I know that without you, there’d be no me and our memories are endless. I miss you more than words can express. I love you. And most importantly, thank you. I absolutely thank you.